Hey Susi, my darling:

There are good men out there and there are not so good men out there.

For a long time, I thought I found a good man in my ex-boyfriend. I was head over heels for him and no matter how many times he hurt me, I thought that he would eventually see me for who I was and fall in love with me the way I wanted him to. It never worked out that way.

I eventually realized (after much too long) that he had me around for his convenience. He would tell me what I wanted to hear, what I needed to hear (without really meaning it) just to keep me from moving on eventhough he had no intentions of ever being true and honest to me.

This guy too had a girlfriend when we first started dating. The difference is, he left his girlfriend to be with me (so I thought). The truth is, he left his girlfriend to be with me and everybody else on this planet. I look back at it now and think, first of all, how smart I was to protect myself and second of all, how nieve I was to think that he wouldn't cheat on me eventhough he did cheat on his girlfriend to be with me. From that point going forward, I promised myself that I would never date a guy who was involved with someone else.

To cheat on a person, someone whom you "love", speaks volume for your character and how you really feel about the other person (very little respect). This guy has very little respect for his girlfriend and very little respect for himself and you, quite frankly.

Be strong Susi. You are a very smart and beautiful person and I am very confident that you will make the right decision. The right guy will come along, I promise you.

Remember to always smile even when you are feeling sad because you never know who may be falling in love with your smile so pretty and so beautiful.

Your friend forever,
Shelly